And I was able to verify this personally. Pieza - alloy - hotel - this was our route with the burning brunette Branco. Beautiful eyes, long eyelashes, a figure like that of Apollo and refined manners - these are almost all young Serbs. They are beautiful and insatiable.

Serbian men are insatiable in food (meat-meat-meat, the more the better), in water (here they drink water all the time), in smoking (they don’t fight smokers in Serbia - and they do it right).
This morning, Branko drove me away in his sparkling Ford from the House of Cholovic, where I got acquainted with ancient Serbia, Serbian cuisine, the customs and customs of this amazing country, to New Belgrade.
It does not look like the Old City at all - because it is a city of the young.

Here people actively go in for sports, ride bicycles - there are bicycle paths.

Everywhere modern shopping centers - no worse than in Moscow,

luxury hotels,

multi-story houses,

new buildings,

expensive cars.

But Branco is taking me to the rafting - the embankment of the Sava River, where there are countless restaurants and cafes on the water. It is here that all the youth of Belgrade hang out. Each restaurant is unique in terms of menu and atmosphere.

Someone is already having fun with might and main (here you can ride).

The main thing is not to crush the inhabitants.

Or maybe - to rent this boat here?

Or this one? I like her more.

This place whets the appetite.

And the prices here are not bad (to get the price in rubles, you need to divide by 2 - this is approximately).

Branko persistently pulls me here - on the Cruise!

A party place for friends with a beautiful view and the opportunity to ride along the Sava.

If you want to sit overlooking the river, then it is better to book a table in advance.

But the most important thing is that you can smoke inside (I am completely delighted - I like to look at a man who smokes)!

Mostly young people meet here - to talk, sit, hang out, eat a little - snacks and Caesar salad. Prices are amazing by Moscow standards: whiskey 200 rubles, mojito 150 rubles, water 65 rubles.

How much is my Caesar - I don't know, because Branco pays for everything. By the way, I could not overcome this portion: a very unusual salad - with tender chicken, bacon and exquisite sauce (never Caesar, even tastier).

And now I am waiting for a night walk around Belgrade!

1. In Serbia, the passion for sports is rampant: everyone is rooting for someone and / or doing something. Pensioners, schoolchildren (I live near the school; it seems that most of the lessons are physical education), men, girls, women ... Everyone is rooting for someone or watching sports news. If you are not doing something, it causes sincere bewilderment in the interlocutor.
2. We have tea, they have coffee. Only coffee is much bigger in every way. Coffee is drunk everywhere - at home, at work, in cafes. With a cigarette, Turkish delight or a glass of vinjak (local brandy). Tea in Serbia is often perceived as something from the category of means traditional medicine and it is not easy to find tea that is normal in our understanding. By the way, the same story with buckwheat.
Coffee is usually homemade, Turkish or Serbian - these are all names for the same ground coffee brewed in Turkish (well, maybe there are some minor differences). Although in shopping centers and cafes for tourists, homemade coffee has replaced espresso and cappuccino.
3. People smoke a lot in Serbia. More precisely, MNOO-OO-GO-Oh! I have seen more than once how people, not having time to finish off one cigarette, immediately grab the second one and light it with the first one.
Cigarettes are a commodity subject to state monopoly, therefore, wherever you buy a pack, its price will always be the same - in a stall, in a supermarket, in a nightclub or restaurant. Basically, these are all the same brands as all over the world - Winston, Marlboro and dozens of familiar names. There are also local ones - Drina, Classic, Best, something else.
4. And they drink - not much. You can often see a group of men sipping coffee with mineral water or cola in a cafe. There is also beer (starting from noon) or raki (which is more often in the evening), but usually it is “to drink”, and not “to get drunk”.
Which, however, does not mean that here they cannot hit the liver properly and do not know what it is to stubbornly to the unconscious - this also happens, but at the same time, stubborn ones behave quite “socially-oriented”. No one will bother to find out how much others respect him and from which part of the city the interlocutor is from.

5. Well, since we are talking about vices ... Gambling is a popular pastime. In kladionitsa (a place where you can bet), which are here at every step, you can bet both on a football team (it doesn’t matter - Serbian, Paraguayan or Easter Island cricket team), and on cockroach races in, say, Indonesia or by what margin the presidential candidate will win in the upcoming elections.
6. About prices. Unlike in Russia, prices for the same type of product do not vary significantly depending on the place of purchase. For example, a bottle of some Pepsi-Cola will cost, say, 50 dinars in a Belgrade supermarket, 55 dinars in a stall on the other side of the city, and 48 dinars in a store in some village in Vojvodina.
7. Tap water in Belgrade is absolutely safe to drink. Truth.
Even cafes often serve coffee with tap water. If you ask in surprise, “So what is it, from the tap, or what?”, They will also answer you in surprise, “Yes, but what?” Because "the tap water in Belgrade can be drunk absolutely calmly."
8. If you want to buy a bottle or two of beer in a store, be prepared for the question “Do you have containers?”. The fact is that in Serbia, glass beer (as well as from some brands of carbonated water) 0.5-liter bottles are not thrown away, but after use they are surrendered, preferably to the place where you bought the product. If you do not have an empty bottle, in some places you may not be sold beer / water, and in others they may sell you at an inflated price relative to the price tag on the shelf, which will include the cost of glass containers.
So, when going to the store for beer / water, take an empty container with you. If not, get ready to overpay.
9. The most popular site in Serbia is Facebook. I judge by my acquaintances, advertising in public transport and on TV, contacts indicated even by some government organizations ... Some government organizations use their face page as an official website. Facebook in Serbia EVERYWHERE.

10. Attention! Here is a difficult moment. If you fail to feel it, then either the author does not speak the language sufficiently, or the category in question is very, very far from our mentality. It will be about lifestyle and values ​​- complex philosophical categories, which, obeying the rules of the chosen format, I will try to fit in a few lines.
So.
One of the main values ​​in Serbia (I will not tell you about all the Balkans), which greatly distinguishes us from them, is the so-called. merak - buzz, "rest" in Serbian.
Whoever you are, whatever you do, whatever your life goals are - the main thing is that there is always time for merak. Morning coffee comes down to this, and work, where there must be time for rest, and the schedule, and in general the whole daily routine (if anyone has one). This partly explains the abundance of cafes and cafes in any town in Serbia.
Even if the Serb is “stranded”, there are 500 dinars in his pocket, and before payday as before Moscow, he can still spend this last money on beer, snacks and something else, gather a couple of friends and relax. Because there must be a measure. Life is not to break in until you lose your pulse, so that later you look around in surprise, “Firs ... but where is life?”.
Life is to enjoy. Otherwise - nonsense.
If it was not possible to convey the idea, then just forget this paragraph.
11. By the way, it seems to me that this measure also explains the rather liberal work schedule in most state and non-state institutions - from 8:00 to 16:00 (in fact, more often until 15-30, especially on Friday).
12. In Serbia it is difficult to determine the true age, especially for women. You look - a beautiful girl, and she has three children, the eldest is already 15 years old. Or: you look - a beautiful girl, and she is 14 (she will be 2 years old, as it turns out later). Or: you look from the back - a cool girl, figure, gait ... 20 years old, you probably think. You equalize, look into the face, and there 40-55.
13. In Serbia, they don't swear. It is spoken here. And this is no exaggeration. Both 5-year-old children, girls, and ancient grannies, God's dandelions, spit. What is there! More than once I heard uncut swearing in news releases on state TV.
The fact is that the mat is not separated from everyday language, as it is with us. To a greater extent, this is a way to emotionally color speech. At the same time, in terms of its brutality, the Serbian mat, perhaps, will give odds to the Russian.
14. One virtual acquaintance once noticed that the number of nuts, geeks and eccentrics in Serbia is simply hellish. And there is.

15. On the road. If you saw someone turn on the turn signal, then you have witnessed a rare phenomenon.
16. In Serbia, they love to pack everything. When going to the market, you don’t have to take bags with you - even a small bunch of parsley will be put in a separate bag for you, and when you see that you already have a lot of these bags, they can offer you a larger bag. In supermarkets, do not be surprised to see, for example, canned fish, also packed in cardboard boxes - each can in its own box.
17. By the way, about supermarkets: often they don't have cameras where you could leave bags with groceries in front of the entrance to the hall. Instead, there will be a series of hooks on the wall at the entrance, on which these bags can be hung. That is, all your purchases made in other stores or in the market, you just leave at the entrance.
You can almost not worry about safety - basically, they don’t steal%)).
18. You can greet women by shaking hands. Moreover, it is the norm. The main thing - do not forget: first they extended their hand to the woman, said hello, then to the man.
19. Serbian or Serbo-Croatian, as it was called before the collapse of Yugoslavia - the language spoken in Serbia, Croatia, Montenegro, Bosnia. Whatever you rubbed there.
Yes, there are small differences - the accent, the meaning of some words, and the Montenegrin geniuses even came up with two new letters a few years ago, but in general, the difference between Serbian and Croatian is less than between Russian and Belarusian.

20. More about the language - be careful in expressing emotions in public places. Firstly, some swear words in our languages ​​are the same, and secondly, quite a lot of Serbs, especially the older generation, learned Russian and remember something else.
21. Ah, here's another thing about the language - I almost forgot! In Serbia, the written language exists in two versions - in Cyrillic and Latin, each version with its own specific characters. Officially, the Cyrillic alphabet is considered the “only true” one - in the state. institutions, everything will be in Cyrillic, laws, decrees, that's all there ... But in real life latinica vse bolshe i bolshe tesnit Cyrillic. Most of the print media is in Latin, more and more signs are in Latin, not to mention the Serbian segment of the Internet.
22. Belgrade is a city of almost two million people, but it still does not have a metro. But there are long bus lines and, sitting, for example, on the outskirts, you can get to the center without a transfer.
23. Much of the investment in the country (or the direct income of Serbian families) comes from the diaspora. Somewhere on this website, I already wrote that more than $5 billion came to Serbia last year.
What is meant: someone has a brother, someone has a son or daughter working abroad - in Russia, the USA or Europe. With a minimum wage of $1,500 (for example, Serbian builders working in Russia in the Far East receive $1,500-2,500 a month, depending on qualifications and working conditions), part of the money is sent to a family in Serbia. With a population of 7.5 million, the average is something like $666 per person per year (and this figure is certainly not accidental!).24. On price tags in shops and supermarkets, you can often see the price indicating a pair (the Serbian equivalent of a penny), i.e. 56.47, or 88.95, or 243.19.
In fact, no one will require you to pay these pennies (especially since they have been out of circulation for 8 years already). Just round up or down - depending on the mood. Here, in general, this is treated rather casually, even in large stores. A bottle of wine costs, say, 378.77 dinars, but you only have 372 dinars? It's okay, come here, then you'll bring the rest. Next!
It is still a mystery to me how local accountants balance debits and credits at the end of a month or quarter.

25. Funny moment - the rhetorical “how are you?”, a phrase provided as part of the greeting by social norms, in Serbian would be “where is si?” - "where are you?". Surely there is some story behind this, rooted ...
26. Serbs are very conservative in terms of food. Do not try to surprise a Serb with dumplings, caviar, and even more so roach - an empty translation of the product. Better feed this (and do not forget to stroke) the cat. At least he'll be grateful.
27. In Serbia, there is a holiday specific to Serbia - Glory. This is a religious holiday - the day of the saint, the patron saint of the family. Glory is "inherited" through the husband's line. i.e., a girl, having married, already celebrates the new Glory of her husband's family. It is customary to invite relatives, friends and acquaintances to Slava, often despite their religious views. As a rule, cookies and wine are an obligatory item on the Slava table. Cookies have nothing to do with our cookies, in Serbia this word means a pig or lamb roasted on a spit, less often a bull.
Glory sometimes falls during Lent. Then often all meat dishes are simply replaced with fish. And wine usually, like, "doesn't count." Be sure it will be in sufficient quantities. Some of those who are fasting will surely cross themselves and drink a couple of glasses of brandy. The most common Glory in Serbia falls on the day of St. Nicholas, on John the Baptist and on St. Sava of Serbia.
28. In the event that someone in the family has died, it is customary to write the so-called post-mortem - small announcements with a photo, name, surname, date of birth and death, with information in two lines about who the deceased was. These announcements are printed in newspapers in special sections, as well as on poles, bulletin boards, walls of buildings.
29. Serbia is culturally divided into two parts - north of the Danube, which until the end of the First World War was ruled by the Austro-Hungarian Empire, and south of the Danube, which was part of the Ottoman Empire until the middle of the 19th century.
The influence of these two cultures is especially noticeable in architecture.
30. A separate topic is the church. Here you will not meet detachments of old guards who came to the church with only one purpose - to find hidden demons and apostates in other parishioners. Get ready for temptations: especially if you come to church, and there is a wedding. Bridesmaids, female guests will be dressed not at all according to the canons. No scarves! Miniskirts and cleavage only! Moreover, the depth of the neckline and the length of the skirt will directly depend on the size of the chest and the length of the legs of the parishioner.

The tragic fate of the Balkan land, which from time immemorial served as a bait for all kinds of aggressors and invaders, left an indelible mark on the character of the Serbian people, which is easily traced even today. However, in order to notice these features, one will probably have to come here with a clear prejudice towards the Serbian people, who have been so zealously supported in recent times in the West.

The fate of the Serbs is tragic and heroic at the same time. Suffice it to say that not a single war that has swept across the European continent over the past two millennia has bypassed this small country, several times smaller than, for example, Switzerland, which has not been at war with anyone for 600 years. Therefore, one should not be surprised that the inhabitants of Serbia are indeed ardent nationalists, and do not hide it. However, their nationalism is not at all the same as in some places they are used to describing in terrible propaganda about the Balkan wars. This is a sound and long-suffering feeling of national self-sufficiency, pride in one's history and the deeds of one's ancestors, as well as bitterness for the centuries-old genocide of Serbs and the narrow-mindedness of some politicians, including their own, Serbian ones.

But in general, this is the same hospitable and open people, like most of the South Slavic tribes. Serbs revere the main stronghold of their nation - the Serbian Orthodox Church and their culture, love to set the table, receive guests and arrange all kinds of festivities, eat the same dishes and even speak almost the same language as the rest of the peoples of the former Yugoslavia. They are quite respectful and friendly towards visitors, especially those who try to speak their native language or are interested in the culture of the locals.

Even young Serbs know the history of their country at the level of a professional historian, and excursions to memorable places will be carried out no worse than an experienced guide. Here they are tired of the war and will gladly discuss views of the harvest or sports, gossip about personal life or criticize the weather, but it’s not worth talking about politics or the last Balkan war here - these events are too fresh in the memory of local residents. Relations with other peoples of the former Yugoslavia, despite the active process of reconciliation, still remain difficult - in almost every family, someone died in that war, more than 30% of the population lost their homes and were forced to live in other people's houses, Serbian shrines, and the situation in UN-controlled Kosovo is still extremely tense.

In Serbia, respect for Russians and residents of the countries of the former USSR is quite high, who are welcome guests almost everywhere. There is nothing ostentatious in this - for the most part, this is how they treat all foreign tourists, however, the centuries-old connection between our peoples has not faded from the memory of people here, although it has been somewhat “blurred” by the events of recent years. The almost complete absence of a language barrier contributes to this - Serbo-Croatian, although very remotely similar to Russian, is nevertheless united in its language basis and graphics, and the abundance of people who know Russian "from the old days" evens out this difference. However, young people, as elsewhere, prefer to study Western European languages. English language although it is used almost everywhere, especially in trade and the resort business, it is not very popular with the population for political reasons, especially in Serbia - German or French is preferred here. Any phrase in Russian will arouse the liveliest interest of local residents here, and knowledge of several of the most common local words almost completely erases the boundaries between tourists and hosts.

When meeting, local residents, regardless of religion, greet each other in a European way - with a handshake. In some southern regions, hugs and kisses are allowed when meeting well-known people, but this is unacceptable with strangers. When visiting someone's home, small gifts are common. The ability to speak and carry on a conversation is highly valued by the locals. Lengthy dialogues at any table, be it a street cafe or a private house, can be seen everywhere. Even an ordinary tea party in one of the street cafes here can turn into an exciting discussion. During a festive feast, the conversation can even drag on until late at night, and topics for conversation can be very diverse.

The attitude to clothing is quite informal, European dress is accepted everywhere, but tracksuits are unlikely to cause understanding in restaurants and cafes. People in an "inappropriate" form are simply not allowed in most restaurants, and even more so - at official events. Evening wear is rather informal, but conservative, and is based on local traditions (Serbs treat their national costume with real reverence). For a foreigner, compliance with local dress codes for such cases is not at all necessary - it is enough to have long trousers or a dress, as well as a shirt or blouse in a classic style (in some cases, a jacket).

Most people in the country are heavy smokers. Even in public transport and in public places you can always meet smokers. Also, noisy companies diligently engaged in libation are not uncommon, but drunkenness among the locals is a rare phenomenon.

The other day I was looking for something on the Internet and I don’t know how, I came across an article “marry a Serb”. I got curious and decided to read it. The article described what kind of Serbs they are and what awaits a girl in such a marriage. My indignation knew no bounds. I have never seen so much stupidity and ignorance in one article. I wanted to leave a malicious comment, but the comments were closed.

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Then I digested all this information and decided to see what they write on other sites about marriage with Serbs and deliberately began to search for articles on the request "marry a Serb." I found entire forums where girls want to find out what they really are, Serb men?! And I even found a dating site with Serbs. But the feeling is that all these articles, fabrications and advice are written by people who have not met a single Serb in their lives, and certainly do not know anything about marriage.

As always, I had a feeling of injustice against the people, which I respect very much. And the desire to rehabilitate the undeservedly slandered male Serbs was the reason for writing this article.

The first and most important thing I want to say is that in any country, at any end of the world, all people are different. It is impossible, having become acquainted with one representative of the nation, to evaluate the whole nation in the image and likeness.

(Serbian by mother) - musician, composer and singer

We, Russians, are maximalists: we do not have workaholics, because the vast majority are lazy; there is no middle class, since the majority are below the poverty line; well, and, of course, all Russians are drunks, because 8 out of 10 like to drink. In the same way, we evaluate others: if a good foreigner gets caught on the path of life, then his whole nation is good, if he gets bad, then all the other bastards. And we are so sure of our ignorance that we also warn others.

Moreover, our Russian nature explains all the advantages and disadvantages very easily - MENTALITY. The word, of course, is beautiful, but hardly understandable to everyone, because many people sum up mental features both appearance and personal characteristics that develop in the process of upbringing from generation to generation of each individual cell of society, and even financial condition and education. Well, how not to be outraged?!

In general, in order to understand what kind of Serbs are husbands, it is necessary, as with a man of any other nationality, to go through the whole path of living together, starting from the candy-bouquet period, and ending at least with the appearance of offspring.

I have been coexisting with a Serb for 12 years now, so I really want to refute the nonsense spread on the Internet and misleading the masses.

Stupidity one: Serbia is patriarchy . If we consider the concept of patriarchy literally, then this is the presence of privileges for men and the subordinate position of women. I declare with all responsibility that there is no patriarchy in the literal sense in Serbia. Women work, socialize, play and lead on a par with men. At the same time, they perform their household duties with the usual approach, and not under duress. The head of my family is a compromise.

In any nation there are unbalanced arrogant men. Let's take at least the Russian proverb “beats means loves”, isn't this a sign of patriarchy?! Why justify someone's cruel actions by patriarchy?! If your relationship is still at the romance stage, and you are no longer allowed out of the house because of jealousy, then you can immediately guess how your future marriage will end. But what have the Serbs got to do with it?!

Novak Djokovic - Serbian tennis player, former world number one

Stupidity two: Serbian men are rude, uncouth, with a quick temper and explosive character, ignorant of romance. Absolute nonsense. These character traits do not depend on nationality. If you put two queues side by side, no matter why, but long and for a couple of hours, one of the Serbs, the second of the Russians, I assure you, the Serbs will be far from Russian irascibility and explosiveness.

As for romanticism in a relationship, then how lucky. It is possible that a Serb will not give flowers, but only because this is not accepted in Serbia. But one of my acquaintances, a Serb, made gifts with his own hands for any event for his beloved.

As for uncouthness… well, let the counterbalance to effeminacy be called that way… Yes, for the most part they are not sissy (although there are different instances), but do women want others?!

Stupidity three: practice of blood feud in case of family insult . I'll be honest, I've never seen such insanity. Yes, the family for the majority of Serbs is not just a cell of society, but really a fortress. They always help and support each other, and this is very valuable. And of course, having offended family values, the insolent will be awarded contempt, but hardly blood feud. Directly middle age some, by God.

I assure you that the family of your Serbian husband will welcome you cordially. But do not forget that when you come to a new monastery, you will naturally have to obey its charter. And what, in Russia somehow differently?!

Stupidity four: celebrate the holidays in a big way . Perhaps that was once the case. But now, in the age of unemployment and lack of money, hardly anyone will decide on a big party. In every Serbian family, there is only one family holiday, to which absolutely everyone can come - this is Slava. The patron saint of the family is glorified (each family has its own). On this day, at least 50 guests can visit the family. And all other celebrations are celebrated, as elsewhere, depending on finances.

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Stupidity five: uneducated, down to earth in judgments and desires, in general, not intellectuals . Well, yes, at every step you will not meet an intellectual there. Where will you meet? As for education, there children study at schools without absenteeism and it is prestigious to be an excellent student, and not only in the first grade, but until graduation. I can say that the knowledge of many Serbs in geography, history and literature (including foreign ones) is sometimes amazing. And the fact that they do not distinguish between Rembrandt and Raphael ... then you will take your Serb to an art gallery and show the difference. But any Serb knows and honors the traditions of his people, which, by the way, are still maintained to this day.

True:

1. Serbs, both men and women, in many ways restrained :

- in behavior. Of course, they can speak loudly on the street, or stop the car right in the middle of the road when they see a friend, and talk to him for a long time, creating a traffic jam on the road. But you, for example, will not see a drunken Serbian dancing on the bar. Speaking of alcohol...

- The second indicator of restraint is alcohol. They drink like all normal people, but they don't get drunk. And if they get drunk, they don't wallow in a ditch. In general, it is impossible to meet a Serb (and, God forbid, a Serb) walking down the street with an open bottle of beer. It is not accepted and uncivilized. But at the same time, there are a lot of smokers, and women prevail.

2. Straightforward . They speak good and bad equally frankly. But not because they want to offend or appease you, such is the peculiarity of the language. There are few words in the Serbian language that reflect nuances. This is exactly what I like: everything is clear and precise, without wagging and tricks, absolutely reflecting the essence of the matter.

3. Friendly and hospitable . And not only to friends and acquaintances. And if you are a dear guest, then the host will take off his last shirt, but will accept it at the highest level.

4. Not wasteful, but not stingy . "How is it?", you ask. Yes Easy. They just spend money wisely. Unfortunately, “reasonableness” is different for everyone.

5. chatty, and this applies primarily to men. And if the company is also warmed up by a glass of brandy… they will chat until the morning.

And this is the hero of my novel ...

6. hardworking I would even say workaholics. Especially when the need compels. Instead of giving up, they will fight to the last for a place under the sun.

7. Very fond of children and know how to communicate with them - this is their nationality. In the family of a Serb, there will be no question of the need to add a family. This goes without saying. Of course, no one will force you to give birth to a dozen offspring. But if a woman becomes pregnant, it is a great joy for a Serbian husband.

A case from life: one friend of my husband (of course, a Serb) was an absolutely crazy dude - a goofy troublemaker. One fine day, some girl suddenly called him, a random, single and long-forgotten acquaintance, and invited him to the maternity hospital to pick up their common born child. And what do you think, took, married, settled down, happy.

8. are beautiful. I'm not exaggerating. Of course, there are individual individuals ... but in the general mass they are beautiful. Even, perhaps, more attractive than Serbian women. But they do not boast of their appearance, but are simply confident in themselves and their abilities, which they conquer. At the same time, they are faithful and devoted to their chosen one, because, as I have already said, the family is the main thing for them.

9. Well, and the most important thing is sex. I am not going to talk about the details of my personal life, I will only say that you are unlikely to find negative reviews of Russian girls about sexual life with Serbs.

So, dear girls, there is no need to wonder “what to expect from marriage with a Serb”. There is only one answer: you need to build relationships, and this applies to any marriage.

Remember, I'm talking about the vast majority of Serb men, but not all. Which one will you choose...

Don't switch!

48 comments on “I want to marry a Serb! or debunking social myths”

Interesting article! You're right, we usually judge people based on someone's good or bad experience or encounter. Someone met a bad person, and he turned out to be of a different nationality, we will quickly ascribe to all the people the bad features of one representative. And we like to talk about the bad more often than about the good. So it turns out that everyone around is bad, and we are good. and we are good! Articles like yours are much needed. So we will better understand other people, and we will not “hang labels on everyone”.

Excellent article! As I read, I kept nodding. I myself am going to marry a Serb, he is wonderful! And all his friends and family received me very well. I admit that I met not very decent Serbs, but this is in any nation, nothing surprising.
Girls who doubt whether to marry a Serb or not, keep in mind that, like any man of any other nationality, it is impossible to re-educate them))) The main thing is to be open to everything new, learn to understand another culture, and then you will have fun and interesting with your chosen one.

1. The fact that it is not worth re-educating anyone - I completely agree. A normal man under the influence of his wife will change implicitly, but one should not expect any cardinal changes. We don’t want to be pressured and educated, and so do men)
   Of course, every nation has some General characteristics, but all the same, we are looking at a specific person - whether it suits us or not, and not at his nationality ..

   Lyudmila, you are absolutely right! At work, I communicated with representatives of many nationalities, but I only had a good impression of the Serbs. I am Croatian by father and Russian by mother, I married a Serb because everything you described in the article is true! Croatian women are very similar to Russian women. We are looking for men who will take care of us, and not drive us to work, as if we are drain. My friends were seduced by Spain, Poland and Greece, but everyone quickly repented, because a Western man is now worse than a sissy girl, but she requires independence, dowry and economy from a woman. Have you seen the Eurovision winner? These are the men in the west. So I advise everyone to marry the Serbs)))

   • Girls, introduce me to a Serb! I live in the Czech Republic - I was seduced by Western values, emancipation and other nonsense, but now I understand that all this is alien to me, brought up in a traditional and somewhere even conservative Russian family.

2. Excellent article! I have long been tormented by the question of where to meet a Serb, I have long sympathized with this Slavic nation. Can you suggest? Thanks;)

3. She is in love with Serbia, she would like to live there, but she was terribly disappointed in Serbian men. It was the Serb who broke my soul and heart this summer. We met on the Internet, talked on Skype, invited me to visit. Spilled like a nightingale, how we, the Slavs, differ from the rest. I'm not too wealthy, I can afford a full trip with accommodation, etc. I couldn’t, but I persuaded, chatted, like round-trip tickets from me, and in Serbia expenses from him. He told me how we will go there, we will go here, we will go to Montenegro. He spoke such words that you will not hear from our Russian peasants. In addition, not a young kid, but a man in the region of 50 years old. I believed, in any case, I decided that this is Serbia, not Turkey, I will not fall into slavery. I went. He recouped me in full, apparently, for all his grievances in life against women. Instead of affectionate words and compliments, which he showered on Skype, he constantly told me how fat I am, what a bad third-rate I have ... although this did not stop him from having sex with me several times a day. I've never had such horrible sex in my life. Not the slightest attention to what I want, just turned like an animal, and away we go. At the same time, with swearing that everything is wrong with me and not that way. And to everything there is still no protection, such as "if I make you a child, you will be the happiest woman." He made me plow in his garden, around the house, he constantly said that I would support him, that he would come to live with me in Russia. He himself is now unemployed, one-time earnings. As I understand it, he used to make good money before, when Yugoslavia was still there, and even then. And now there is a complete crisis, there is no money. My every trip to the toilet was taken into account, I was afraid to wash once again. He mentally crushed me terribly. At the same time, paradoxically, he loves Russia quite sincerely, politically we have complete mutual understanding. I don’t know if he was always like this, but I got it for everyone, apparently. A couple of years ago, he was abandoned by some khokhlushka, whom he was going to marry. He even showed me a video recording with her, how she called him her favorite, etc. By the end of the first week, I had a wild hatred for everything, I thought (forgive me, Lord) that if all Serbs are like that, then this country should be wiped off the face of the earth. It was wild domestic hell. I couldn't even get out of the gate. Like “if you came to see the country, then you should have gone on tour, but you came to me, and I have to harvest vegetables for myself for the winter,” etc. As he later said, he kicked his wife out when his son was about a year old. For what, I don't know. He raised his son himself, the son is a charm, I saw him on the last day. By the end of the first week, they quarreled, because I could not stand it anymore. Somehow, these pitfalls with khokhlushka, etc., were revealed. He became a little more human. But not much. In sex, everything remained the same. He constantly said that he would marry me, and would sleep with young girls, because he wanted them. Even with me, he asked his friend, with whom they walked together, to take pictures of the asses of passing girls. Showed me pictures when I was younger. Of course, he was insanely handsome. And he was a wild womanizer. I think ruined the lives of many women in different countries. My attitude towards Serbia, of course, still returned to normal, communication with neighbors, in stores, where I eventually began to go out, did its job. I saw a benevolent, warm, amazing country. But I do not want to repeat the experience of relations with a Serbian man. After this trip, I am no longer interested in sex, I don’t feel anything in it, although I have been temperamental in this sense all my life. I am disgusted by the thought that some man will touch me with his paws. Here is such an experience. Probably chaotically written. But all this has accumulated, it has not been shared anywhere until now. But every morning I still wake up and go to bed in the evening with one thought: I am a third-class woman, I can only be treated like this ....

   • Svetlana ... you left me without a text, as the Serbs say) At least write the name of this cat in a poke so that others do not run into it. You can also post a photo so that it would be more discourteous to spoil the life of various women.
     You know, I think it's not about nationality, there are plenty of such freaks everywhere. And sometimes online dating ends like this: instead of a fairy tale, cruel reality.
     And you needlessly got sick of self-abasement. You must understand that this is a weak animal, which, due to its physical advantage, raises its self-esteem. Hit his ego, write to him for the last time that in sex he is g..no)).

     • Lyudmila, I understand everything, of course.) But I had a terribly difficult life, especially last years. And this, apparently, was the last straw. The funny thing is that he constantly told me in the last week, and even now, when I sometimes get out on Skype, too, that I’m just super as a person, he didn’t meet better. And he sincerely himself does not understand that he treated me like the last ... He believes that he treated me well. Moreover, I think that with previous women, perhaps he communicated differently. After all, a woman from Ukraine talked to him for two years, he even bought her a ring. Before me last winter, a Muscovite came to him, he took pictures on New Year hotel room, they celebrated there. And I, apparently, fell for his anger in connection with failures with women, plus now it’s so bad with work, he can barely survive ... In general, I even feel sorry for him. But we were walking around the city, so “oh, you are good, you are kind, buy ice cream”, etc. It seems like he fed at home, he didn’t take it for food, but he constantly pulled it out like that. Either pay for a watermelon, or treat me to beer. If he had immediately explained to me that without a job, that everything is like this with money, I would understand what I was going to. Besides, I'm not a greedy person. But how could I buy something if I didn’t go out into the city for almost a week. In addition, the first thing he did was when, on the second day of my arrival, I got into my wallet while I was washing and counted all my money. After all, I couldn’t even go anywhere without him, only to the shop next to me for bread or burek. I could not even buy something that I wanted to eat myself. Full control. Maybe someone else will be fine with it. This is clearly not the case for him to deliberately call women to him to make fun of him. In the last 3-4 days, he is even calmer, quieter. Obviously saddened by my departure. I feel sorry for him. Apparently, the Munich syndrome.))) So it is quite possible that he will be a good husband to someone.)))) He lives in Kraguevets, his name is Stoyan. Listen to his stories that the most important thing for him is the soul, and appearance is not the main thing, do not.)) This is bullshit.))

     • And there are a majority of such “Stoyanovs” in Serbia and Montenegro, and this does not depend on either age or place of residence. Belgrade is no different from the "macho" from a remote province. So a Balkan man for our girl is not a dream, but a nightmare. Well, if life does not break at all, otherwise such cases are known.

   • Svetlana, your story has once again confirmed that the Serbs are all very different and there are those who use women very much, because. Serbs apparently value themselves higher and demand more than Russian-speaking young ladies. As for sex, I can believe that there is no protection and purely for myself, and then they still brag to their friends, how many times and in what position ... I call it cattle (forgive everyone I can offend with this word), but these are not realized men who just vampire loved ones.

     Yes, and be careful with non-standard names - there are a lot of Serbs and Bosnians Muslims, while there are even blondes. Many people want to live at the expense of women, believing that all Russians are from Moscow. I know examples of how Russian wives found money so that their husband and father of children would not just go to jail for fraud.

     I say this on the simple basis that I lived in the Balkans for a couple of years and communicated with the local population. A very difficult region and the people who are focused on it. If the deputy the consul of the embassy of one of the post-Yugoslav countries told me, “Don’t try to marry a local”, I think there is something to think about.

     And to you, Svetlana, I sincerely wish to turn to myself with love and start this fascinating Path with Faith in my soul. And then a good and faithful man will be attracted to this purity! All the best!! 🙂

Horror, I’m sure that the nightmares described above are more exceptions than rules ... you shouldn’t rush into all serious troubles ... relationships are tested by time, even if via Skype. And fly “if only to someone, the main thing is he is a Serb” - then you will get it in the end.

4. I met with Serb. We met not online, but in person. I can't say anything bad. Worked at the same place for 10 years. When we met, she said I was renting an apartment, although I have one, I am from Siberia and we always have snow and cold. He, we love Russian women. Guys, when they need it, are the same everywhere. When it works until 22.00, I will come to you at night ... Just what do you want ... Only changing my fate and going to Serbia stops me. This is not New York, with not very good work, especially for foreigners ...

   Oh, how many different passions I read in the comments after the article! I never wanted to marry a foreigner. I got used to the mentality of our men, but the new way of life, rules, and language are not for me. Interestingly, Lyuda, after what is happening in the EU now, do women still seek to marry Serbs, or has the flow of applicants decreased?

5. Hello. My name is Neboisha. I am Serbian. I want to apologize right away for my spelling. I'm very sorry that you had to go through this horror. I even wonder if this is a Serb in general. To be honest, I myself would like to wipe this man off the face of the earth. I have a different story with a Russian woman. Let's start with the fact that I am not a ugly man, an athlete, caring and iomantic. Yes, and many other positive qualities. But I'm not lucky in love. Just starting a relationship and everything is serious. Here as here earlier or later they throw me. What happened again last week. I still suffer, get sick, miss her, pray to God to unite us again. We lived 2 years together. The two most wonderful years of my life. I never had one before her. She constantly said that she was happy with a doubt and that she had found herself a real man. I arranged for her both in bed and as a friend, and we had a bunch of some small habits like little rituals that connected us. Such as. I got up an hour before her to make her coffee and make breakfast since she was the first to go to work. He never left her alone in the kitchen. They helped each other in cooking, or sometimes I myself took the initiative to cook for the next week. I was her fitness trainer as an athlete myself. We loved one sushi bar and only went to it. We were very pleased there. Rollerblading. Gifts and bloom with a reason and holidays, and just do a bunch of moments without a reason when he gave flowers. Yes, words are not enough for everyone how much we had in total and how hard I tried as a man. But the moment came when my work became bad and I began to earn little. No matter how hard I try. We finally decided to get married. So that I get a TRP (temporary permit) so that I can look for a job and earn normal money. But she went into a week of depression and one evening she told me that I see I earn very little and that she stopped believing in me. She said she didn't want to get married, but she loved me very much. But she has money problems and she can’t change herself. And it's better to let her go. That evening we parted ways. I have been suffering for almost 10 days now, there is no appetite and no sleep. And tonight I'm going to meet with her to talk. When we parted on leaving, we hugged each other and both sobbed like children. I still don't understand anything. I myself used to work as an interior designer, and now I'm trying. Found a few more jobs that will bring me finances. I even went to her on Sunday and left her money. She needed help and I didn't want to leave her anyway. I gave her almost everything. I have a couple of thousand left in my wallet, on which I somehow live until I get my next job. Write to the address [email protected] or [email protected]
   And I will leave my phone number 89299863146. Thank you for listening to me)))

6. Hello. I have nothing against Balkan men, and Serbs in particular, but I would like to warn our women who meet Serbs in Russia. A lot of Serbs work here, mostly on construction sites. Far from their homeland and family, they do not hesitate to start a family in Russia, deceiving us in the process. Unfortunately, I personally got into such a story. I met a Serb on the site, bribed, yes, kindness, beauty, strength and beautiful words ... as a result, for almost a year he fooled me and my family, and then one fine day he ran away like a coward. Later, through his work, I found out the whole truth, and what was my surprise to find out that my beloved, almost husband, has a family in his homeland. And my case is not isolated. And yes, Serbs, of course, are handsome men on the outside ... but what's inside is a mystery. Proud, offended, loving to be baptized with or without reason, honoring their traditions: o