When my husband and I are asked how long we have been together, I always say it like it is - 15 years. Usually, after that, the interlocutor looks at me incredulously, and I add - I'm 29, we've been together since we were 14 years old.

Many are surprised, but I do not see anything strange or surprising in this - we love each other and are diligently working on our relationship. Quite often I am asked the question of how to keep the man you love throughout your life.

I decided to answer all the questions at once by writing a short instruction that will help women save relationships.

In general, it seems to me that it is far from possible to maintain relationships with every man for life - people change, they have new interests and desires, and much more. And sometimes some relationships are immediately doomed to failure - it’s not that you can’t keep close, it’s generally impossible to guess what will happen next.

In my opinion, it is best to immediately think about what kind of relationship you need - for life, or just pass the time. And already on this basis, you need to look for a man - so there is a chance to get the desired result.

How to understand that a man is set for a long-term relationship:

• he easily plans the future;
• he is responsible for the words;
• he is ready for dialogue;
• you are good together;
• he knows how to talk about problems;
• he is ready to live the same life as you.

If you are interested in a long-term relationship, then it is better to avoid amorous guys who drag behind every skirt. Any girl has such a guy in mind (or just among acquaintances), who tells every girl about great love, but at the same time, his relationship with none of them lasts more than six months.

In my case, there was no such opportunity to observe a person - after all, at the age of 14, any romantic relationship seem to be eternal. However, I can say that even then my future husband was a responsible, diligent and faithful person (which, by the way, attracted me to him).

Relationship work

Girls, I will never tire of repeating that relationships are hard work! If you want to understand how to keep your beloved man, work on yourself and on your relationship! It is best to do it together, then there will be more sense. Relationships should give a person everything he wants.

If your man is focused on a quiet family life, then arrange for him a little paradise at home - it is always clean, it always smells good of baking and is quiet, the wife is smart, the children are fed and play.

If a man wants to remain an eternal lover (like, for example, my husband), then do the same as I do - periodically indulge him with exciting passionate nights, leave romantic notes in his pockets, flirt to the fullest - our relationship is based on the fact that my husband conquers me year after year.

Everyone needs freedom

Do you need freedom? Your man needs it too. You should not fill your whole life with each other, leave room for hobbies, hobbies, some activities that you do separately. You should not make scandals, forcing him to choose between friends and you - he is already next to you, he loves you, which means you can safely let him go to do what he wants.

My husband and I have different hobbies (of course, we also have common hobbies), and therefore we try to plan our time in such a way that we can do our own things at the same time - this seems right to me. He likes to drink whiskey with friends, I like to go to the spa with my girlfriends or go shopping.

What is more important is to say everything that seems important and vital to you. I am sure that if people can sit down and have a normal conversation, then everything will be fine with them - you should not even worry.

The main thing is personality

This is where I always meet the abyss of misunderstanding, because almost every woman wants to change her man. No, girls, I understand everything, we all wish happiness to our loved ones, and we try to change their lives for the better, but by and large, we love the personality in them, and this personality should remain intact.

It pains me to see when a girl marries a merry fellow and joker who has always been the soul of the company, and then begins to spoil him. First, the guy rarely meets friends in his favorite pub, then he refuses to go to the gym - because his girlfriend thinks that he spends too much time there, then he scores on the weekly airsoft, and what do we have in the end?

From a handsome, stately man with fire in his eyes, a man turns into a balding, pot-bellied uncle who is only interested in the cost of tomatoes near the metro. I would not want to bring my husband to this, so the changes that I carefully make in his life do not change the main thing - his essence.

I can say the same about myself. My husband loves me for who I am - and I'm smart, I can be beautiful and very reasonable. Therefore, I do not allow myself to be stupid, I do not allow myself to walk around the house disheveled, and first I weigh all my words before starting to reflect. After all, he loved me just like that - why would he love me differently?

carnal pleasures

Heh, this isn't talked about too often, but I'll give it a try anyway. Least of all, men leave those wives with whom they have something to talk about and with whom they have good sex. In fact, you can be hysterical, sloppy, "your boyfriend" in jeans and wrestling, but if you make him happy in bed, he's not going anywhere.

Of course, you should not shift the focus in one direction, but still you need to remember that the night cuckoo has been doing the day cuckoo for several centuries.

Care and attention

It seems to me that this is very simple, but in fact, many of my girlfriends do not do this, and I want to emphasize this separately. A man needs to be taken care of. NEED. And he should also take care of you, because otherwise it is no longer a relationship, but the devil knows what.

Try not to criticize him thoughtlessly, or do it as gently as possible - condemnation is clearly not the reaction he needs.

How does it happen with us? As I said, we have a very romantic relationship, we are constantly flirting, constantly seducing each other. However, there is also life, right? In everyday life, we treat each other like children - and it seems to me that this is the best option.

I always warmly and confidentially listen to how he is doing, he shares absolutely everything with me (even what a beautiful new secretary his boss has), I am always ready to help him in any situation. He answers me in the same way - he tries not to argue with me over trifles, pampers me exquisitely and in various ways, and also makes sure that I am happy every day.

I think that every smart woman will find an approach to her man and they will be happy, in any case, I sincerely wish you this.

How to keep a man? How to make the faithful and forget about others and instead completely and completely surrender to the one who really loves him more than life? These and many other questions overcome girls, especially those who suffer from this bright feeling. Well, the topic is serious, and it should be discussed in more detail.

Get to the heart of the problem

To begin with, I would like to understand the nature of the issue. Many girls are puzzled by how to keep a man, but a few (and these, I must say, are very wise and reasonable persons) decide to first think about the situation. After all, if the faithful began to move away, there is a reason for this. Not always logical, sometimes offensive and unreasonable, but it is there. It is unlikely that the guy will voice it himself, although such honest sincere specimens are found. But if he is silent or evades the answer, then before you can keep the man, you will need to solve this riddle.

Maybe the reason lies in the girl. But her young man, as a gentleman, does not want to offend his chosen one. In any case, the first thing to do is to talk to him. Unobtrusive, soft. You can start something like this: "I began to notice that something strange was happening in our relationship. Maybe it only seems to me, and I will be happy if I'm wrong." And then you can already express your guesses. Already after his answer it will be possible to think further. If a young man confirmed his fears and said what exactly did not suit him, then it is necessary to act in a certain, specific direction. Of course, it is possible that it will be unpleasant to hear the reason, but what can you do, few people love the truth. But the truth will be revealed, and this is a plus. But if the guy doesn’t say anything, keeps silent or answers that you really thought it would be more difficult. He probably just doesn't want to talk about it. But it is difficult to deceive a woman's instinct. So you have to think for yourself, just like solving a problem. Well, how to keep a man?

Communication and psychological problems

It is no secret to anyone that often problems in relationships arise due to misunderstanding, disrespect, scandals, quarrels and swearing. And in many cases, all this, oddly enough, has no basis. Perhaps your young man is too jealous and he began to cool down because he "twisted" himself. No guy wants to feel cheated, let alone think that he has been cheated on.

Well, even if this is not the case, you will have to come to terms with this character trait of your loved one and do everything possible to divert suspicion from yourself: stay close to you more often, answer the phone with the mention of names, tell him who is calling, who is writing, etc. .d. Well, if there is no such possibility, then how to keep the beloved man in this case? There is only one way - to constantly prove your love.

Of course, it is not suitable for every girl: pride, self-respect, etc. can become the reason. However, when it comes to love, you can certainly give them up. Words, actions, whatever. In the end, the man will understand that you are really faithful to him, and will stop throwing quarrels and scandals based on vain suspicions. Of course, one should not expect an instant result, but gradually the problem will be solved. The main thing is to do everything sincerely and from the heart. Guys feel it. And they believe.

Saving Relationships

Entire books are written about how to win a man and keep him. Why? Because every girl knows that it’s not so difficult to attract a guy’s attention, but making him stay with her forever is more difficult. They say that a man is like a ball. If the girl releases it from her hands, then it will bloom. And vice versa.

You have to remember that you have to sacrifice something. After all, for a loved one, you can do almost anything. Dedicate as much time to him as needed, sometimes - to put at the expense of your interests and hobbies, communication with other people and other activities. In general, give all of yourself to him. But it's important not to live in pink glasses and accept reality as it is. It is necessary to pay attention to everything that happens in a relationship. Otherwise, you may miss some very important detail. In order to maintain relationships, it is necessary to constantly analyze them.

Novelty and freshness in relationships

Monotony is boring. This is known to everyone. Everyone constantly wants something new. And if a girl can satisfy this desire with some pleasant purchase, then guys most often solve the problem in a different way: they are looking for novelty in a relationship. And God forbid it would occur to him to find himself another girl. In addition, the conquering instinct will also turn on here. New entertainment - try to woo another girl. Let even for a while, then to return to his beloved. For some (not all, of course) guys, this is absolutely normal. But for a loving girl - a real punishment and pain. How to keep a man who considers the above described normal? It's not that hard.

You need to increase your importance in the eyes of your boyfriend. The method by which this can be achieved is not suitable for all men, it should be noted right away. You can designate them like this - jealous hunters. These are not the ones that will tear off the head of anyone who approaches his lady of the heart closer than a kilometer. These are the guys who like that their lover attracts the attention of other men. Such behavior seems to say: "You have excellent taste, you know a lot about women, you are lucky that she is yours!" A similar situation can be provoked by asking a friend to play along.

You also need to remember about the desire for novelty. You can just take and change. Surely the girl knows what attracts her boyfriend in the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity. Moreover, changes can be both external and internal. You can revise your character: strengthen or weaken some qualities. Make your look more confident, make sure of your own uniqueness, become stronger, more independent, more bitchy. Of course, it is best if these changes appear after some separation (for example, both did not see each other for a week or two). This would be more logical than if he and she fell asleep together in the same bed, and eight hours later the girl suddenly woke up with a different character.

All in all, it's worth thinking about. In fact, the answer to the question of how to fall in love and keep a man is extremely simple. You just need to become that girl that he will never get tired of loving.

Get your value back

If we talk about how to keep a man, one cannot fail to note such an item that can be conditionally designated as fear of loss. You can try to keep your lover in some tension, make him remember that you are a value. Not directly, of course. This can be done in different ways: starting with the one mentioned above (collecting the admiring glances of other men), ending with the “closer-further” method.

It consists in being with him for a certain time as tender, sweet, loving and affectionate as possible, and then suddenly disappear. Will call - answer dryly and restrainedly, making excuses: "I can't talk now." He asks for a meeting - to come up with a more important matter. But the main thing here is not to overdo it with the deadlines. For some guys, half a day of such a "game" is enough, for others, a week will not be enough. It all depends on the character. Is it possible to keep a man in this way? Quite. As soon as he feels that there is a possibility of losing his beloved, the one who appreciates him and belongs only to him, he will have fear and a desire to return everything.

You can also take a deliberate break. Make him bored. Everyone knows that if people see each other too often, it gets boring. Someone begins to feel the desire to take a break from this regime after a month, someone - after a year. If a girl feels that her boyfriend is starting to cool off towards her, it's time to "leave on a business trip" for a week or two. Because of the "loaded work plan" only five minutes a day for a conversation. "Darling, I'm sorry, I'm really uncomfortable, but when I return, we'll meet and be sure to make up for the lost! After all, it's only half a month, it's okay," this final phrase will make him worry. He is used to seeing his beloved every day, and then suddenly such a sharp break. Definitely, the man will be bored. He may not say this, but after "returning from a business trip" the girl herself will feel it.

Mistakes of girls who lost their heads

Well, there are a lot of ways to restore the former severity of relations with your boyfriend. The above is just a minimum. However, how do you keep married man? Unfortunately a fairly common question. Will a child hold a man who already has a family? The idea, I must say, is insane. And many girls who have lost their heads from a married man decide on such an act - to become pregnant from him and try to keep their lover with this "joyful" news for him.

This is a fatal mistake. That can only ruin everything. A married man will understand what he has done (although 99% of the probability that he will require confirmation, because many decide to deceive in this way in order to keep their happiness), and will disappear, giving money for an abortion.

In general, it must be said, an affair with a young man who officially has a wife is an ignoble and low business. For a girl, this means being a "fallback". In any case, even if he fell out of love with his official soul mate, his wife has more rights to him than you do. Most of these novels ended in failure. Sometimes a wife can’t keep a man as a child, but here the chances are completely small. There, in marriage, he has stability, a family, perhaps even children, and what he found on the side is most likely just the variety that was mentioned above. There is novelty. But if the girl decided to adjust the pregnancy, then it is better not to do this. Otherwise, you can remain a single mother without alimony.

Guys with character

Many girls, puzzled by how to attract and keep a man, begin to look for answers from the stars, that is, look at the horoscope. Sometimes this can really help. Like it or not, the representatives of certain signs of the zodiac are similar to each other. Of course, for a more accurate decision, you should also know that your lover belongs to the Chinese horoscope, as well as other nuances (starting with the time of birth and ending with your favorite color), but general knowledge is also not bad. Well, it's worth talking about how to keep a Gemini, Taurus and Capricorn man.

Let's start with Gemini. What, or rather, who do they like? Beautiful girls with whom it is interesting to flirt. The chosen one must be smart, educated, independent, competent in those areas that excite them, and, importantly, it is necessary that she think outside the box. A girl should also be open and sincere, trust her boyfriend. If we talk about how to keep the Gemini man, then we can say one thing with confidence: he must always tell only the truth. And do not limit his freedom. Geminis hate when something is forbidden to them. Be that as it may, these men are not prone to deep feelings. We must accept it. So, if you want to keep such a guy, you need to be the most interesting person, constantly improve yourself, develop and surprise him with something new every day. There are no perfect girls for Gemini. For them, there are ideal life partners - those who will become everything for them: both a friend, and support, and support. With such a lady, he will agree to be until the end of his life. By the way, the same can be said about Capricorns. Only they are perhaps more jealous, and intimate relationships play a greater role for them than for Gemini.

Taurus - these personalities should be discussed in more detail. An incredibly jealous and always suspecting dishonesty owner, who can only be kept by love, truth and fidelity, which he constantly needs to be reminded of. To say that he is the one and only, the best and most beloved, that no one else is needed, and that even if you were offered 10 million dollars, you would still choose him. This warms the soul of Taurus. If a girl wants a long and happy relationship with him, she will have to love him, constantly proving this with both words and actions. In general, I must say, Taurus are great loving guys. Only now their feelings and trust must be won. The one mentioned above. But one thing can be said with certainty: boredom and routine in relations with Taurus will not be for sure. It is an eternal firework of emotions and feelings.

Soft and sensual

Libra and Sagittarius - perhaps the most sensual signs of the zodiac of all 12 existing. And in exactly the same order as shown. How to keep a Libra man? It’s simpler than simple: for this you don’t even need to do anything if he himself is crazy about his beloved. The fact is that the representatives of this sign (both boys and girls) are very vulnerable and emotional, although they try their best to hide it. And because they are excellent actors, distinguished by such qualities as cunning and resourcefulness, they are excellent at it. But when they are left alone with themselves, this is the most heartbreaking flow of emotions that can be.

Moreover, the Libra guy is easy to win over, even if he has not paid attention to you before. You need to be active, take initiative, charm him with all your might and show that you care about him. Compliments will not be superfluous either, on the contrary, these guys "love with their ears." Libras are those people who love for being loved. It's a paradox, but such amazing personalities also exist. So it's very easy to get along with them. However, don't play with them. Despite all their softness, openness and sensuality, these people, offended and angry, are capable of strong revenge.

And how to keep the Sagittarius? It is also easy to win a man of this zodiac sign. This is a dreamy person. Emotional guy who loves communication. So, if you want to become his chosen one, you need to become his like-minded and reliable partner. Be sure to support his interests, tastes and preferences. If he is a football fan of Bayern Munich, and it turns out that you also do not like the soul in this team, then this suddenly manifested fact will significantly increase your value in his eyes. Also, do not forget about softness and tenderness. The Sagittarius girl is a sophisticated lady, but self-confident.

Unpredictability and initiative

These are two words that perfectly describe the Aquarius man. With his unexpected actions, he is able to surprise anyone. You can talk about how to keep the Aquarius man for eternity. The fact is that these guys are representatives of the most unstable sign of the Zodiac. And if a relationship has already begun with him, then you will have to realize that this is a game. A very difficult quest in which you will have to prove yourself in the same way as in the case of Gemini. With Aquarius, you need to be interesting, original, surprising and amazing. For him, a girl is not just a friend and partner. This is an object for study. For Aquarius, it is necessary to always be a mystery and a mystery. And when he solves one of them, it is necessary to immediately provide him with another. Aquarius in a relationship should not be bored, because they usually choose extraordinary personalities. If you are, great. If not, you will have to work on yourself, your character, behavior, habits and, possibly, even your lifestyle.

And how to keep a Virgo man - that person from whom fairy tales can not be expected? Will have to make an effort. First you need to accept the fact that the Virgo guy is someone who carefully hides his thoughts, especially his dreams. He is neither a romantic nor an optimist. And it won't, so don't try to change it. Of course, not all Virgos are pedants and realists who think skeptically. However, in their character, these traits appear quite often. Why are Virgo guys so attractive? Because they are very caring. And for many girls, this is the main thing. So, if you want to gain support in the form of this person, you will have to put up with his habit of criticizing everything. And he needs to open up.

Conclusion

Unfortunately, there are cases when girls are puzzled by the question of how to keep their beloved near them. And everyone solves this problem in their own way. Some - conversation, which is sometimes quite enough. Others begin to fight, save relationships with all their might: changing themselves, their usual way of life, character, appearance, if only the beloved would again pay attention to his girlfriend. Still others let everything take its course, hoping that the problem will be solved by itself. However, be that as it may, do not lose hope. There are no relationships without difficulties. We are all human, and sometimes every person has a healthy desire to leave. But in this case, it is necessary to understand the essence of the problem and remember what it all started for. Sometimes guys save relationships, sometimes girls, but the main thing here is the mutual desire to maintain joint happiness. Then everything will work out.

It's not hard to charm a man. Much harder to keep him around. Why is this happening? How to keep the right man? Psychologists will help you understand how to become unique, desirable and unique for your beloved.

Is it worth keeping a married man?

Did you like it? Are you ready for anything for him? Is he worth it? Not every woman understands how to keep a married man. The advice of a psychologist helps a lot.

When a man gets married, he feels responsible for his family. Therefore, he is in no hurry to look for problems on the side. Yes, sometimes he can afford too much, invite the woman he likes to a restaurant or a hotel for love comforts. However, as practice shows, this is where the romance ends. Is it worth it then to think about how to keep a man? Probably not.

A married man can rarely decide to leave his family for a fleeting passion. Therefore, a woman should be ready for this. However, there are exceptions. After all, if a married man fell in love, then he can be kept. In order not to extinguish the passion between you, you must adhere to certain rules.

1. Surprise your man all the time. He is tired of everyday life, the monotony of family life, so try to make sure that he comes to you as if on a holiday. Create romance, comfort, surprise him as often as possible.
2. Don't make scandals. A man gets tired of such relationships, especially a married one. He has enough domestic problems, reproaches and discontent from his wife. Make sure he is comfortable and at ease with you.
3. Don't give him a choice. A man does not like ultimatums. When he is ready to leave the family, you will be the first to know about it.
4. Watch yourself. Greet your loved one well-groomed and tidy. After all, wives most often forget that you need to always look good. Therefore, married men are happy to look at well-groomed women.
5. Compliments. Men love not only with their eyes, but also with their ears. Therefore, if you tell him about good qualities, he will strive to become even better.

Never confuse temporary love and real feelings. If you just like a man, no more, you should not destroy the family. Perhaps you will later regret what you did. Therefore, before asking how to keep a married man, read the advice of a psychologist and think about whether you need such happiness.

To achieve your dream, you need to strive for the goal and achieve it. The same applies to men. If you do not know how to fall in love and keep a man, psychologists give advice.

1. Remain a mystery. Men love to guess women. Therefore, never talk about yourself in all the details. After all, then you will become uninteresting to your beloved. He wants to notice something new in his companion every day.
2. Always be seductive. You understand that first of all, men love with their eyes. Show him your charm daily.
3. Don't be discouraged. Men don't like sad women. Even if you are in trouble, but you decide to meet your loved one, try to always be a cheerful, contented life and with a little humor. Remember, a smile is your weapon. If a man sees you cheerful, he understands that you feel good in his company.
4. Do not be angry. A woman should be kind, harmless and not rude. When a man sees hypocrisy, rudeness, cynicism in his companion, he quickly loses interest in a woman.
5. Find common interests. The stronger sex loves when his companion is interested in the same thing as he is. When a couple has the same hobbies, they will always find something to talk about and there will be no reason to part.
6. Show your loved one an enchanted look. He must see and feel your love, charm. The look should be meaningful, then the man begins to fantasize. Most likely, you will be able to charm him.
7. A gentle touch does not leave any man indifferent. Try to use all your softness.
8. Don't be easily accessible. As a rule, a man is fond of a woman if he cannot win her. Try to keep your loved one at a short distance for a while.

Not all women understand how to attract and keep the right man. However, if you listen to the advice of psychologists, most likely you will be lucky, and everything will work out.

Relationships a man needs

For a loved one to be always there, a woman needs to try. As practice shows, love and passion eventually pass. Therefore, some women ask themselves: “How to keep a man for life?”. Psychologists say that, first of all, the stronger sex does not like the pressure of others. He needs freedom.

A woman should know what kind of relationship a man wants. He can love fun and carefree days or a quiet measured life. Much depends on the weaker sex in a relationship. How to keep a man? Very simple. You have to be natural.

If you want to have fun with your loved one in a restaurant, think maybe he does not want it. Then organize a romantic dinner at home.

If your man loves, on the contrary, fun and noisy companies, you should not burden him with quiet family evenings. Go with him to friends or to a disco, have fun. You must understand what your significant other wants and how he will react to the next surprise.

Understanding is what every man needs. Representatives of the stronger sex want from their beloved not only warmth and love, but also friendly relations which not everyone can give. As a rule, a woman needs more than just friendship. It is because of this that many couples break up quickly.

If you learn to guess the desires of a man, then you will never face the question: “How to understand and keep a man?”.

Freedom is an important criterion in a relationship

A man cannot give all his attention to his beloved. He has friends, colleagues, comrades, hobbies where there is no place for a woman. If you claim all of his attention, nothing good will come of it. If you want to understand how to hold a man, try to let him go. Every person needs freedom.

A man needs to be distracted from weekdays, not only with a woman. Often he just needs to go with friends to drink beer, sauna or football.

There is no need to limit him, let alone make scandals, because you will only push him away from you.

Almost every man likes to go fishing or go to football with friends. Often women arrange scenes of jealousy about this. They rarely believe in fishing. It's in vain. A man needs to be trusted. If he loves you, then he will not be interested in entertainment on the side.

If you do not know how to keep a man, the advice of a psychologist will help you figure it out. Experts recommend not to take personal space from your loved one. Try not to put a man in front of a choice who is dearer to him - his beloved or friends. These feelings are incomparable. Most often, a man chooses friends. After all, they are loyal comrades. And after parting with a woman who takes his space, he will only feel relief and will not regret his choice.

Of course, the couple should spend a lot of time together, but do not forget about the personal life of each. After all, if you are together for days, the second half cools down faster to your loved one. Therefore, so that such an incident does not happen, try not to take away freedom from your loved one and not completely give yourself to him.

A woman is a self-sufficient person

You can't focus on a man. A woman who completely devotes her life to a guy loses herself. She ceases to be interested in herself, pays more attention to her beloved, tries to always be near him. This attitude usually repels a man. It becomes uninteresting for him to communicate with a woman who does not have her own point of view and thoughts, that is, she lives only for the sake of her beloved.

If a woman is overly intrusive and does not leave her man a single step, she will soon bother him. In such cases, men prefer to quickly end the relationship. If a woman is independent, has her own point of view, does not impose herself on her beloved and can express her opinion, he respects her and appreciates her self-sufficiency.

Don't know how to keep a man? First of all, psychologists advise to be an individual and self-sufficient person, with whom it will always be interesting. Then he will already think how to keep you for life.

Femininity is a dream come true

Sometimes the weaker sex behaves not quite correctly in relation to men. If you want to know how to keep a man, listen to the experts. They advise to be feminine, because the stronger sex dreams of such a companion. This refers not only to external beauty, but also to behavior.

Pay attention to your walk, which should be feminine and seductive. To such a representative of the fair sex, men's views are riveted by themselves. The voice is an integral part of femininity. It should be soft, gentle, quiet. Such a voice causes male admiration. The stronger sex sees a fragile and helpless woman who she wants to protect all her life.

Today, many women follow the example of men. For them, career comes first. It shouldn't be like that. Try to create comfort, romance for your beloved, pay attention to everyday life so that there is variety. Only then will a man always want to return home to you.

A woman should not put work, colleagues or career first. After all, her future depends on it. If you do not feel femininity in yourself, develop it. Only then will you succeed.

Love and loyalty

A man always feels a woman's attitude towards him. Therefore, if you want to know how to win and keep a man, be faithful to him. This does not mean that you have to be near him all the time. However, do not give a reason for jealousy. If a man sees that you have fans, he will appreciate you even more. When he notices that you are flirting with other men, he will not like this behavior.

When a woman has many admirers, the beloved will be proud that only he got her. Therefore, you should not hide the fact that someone else may like you. However, try not to flirt with your loved one, because you can cause not only jealousy, but also anger. Then just push away the chosen one.

Psychologists advise not to show your great love for your soulmate too often. However, taking care of him will tell you everything. When a man sees and knows that you are worried about him, worried, he will know and understand that you love him and are devoted to him. A man doesn't need more.

How to keep a man at a distance

Many do not believe that this is possible. There is an opinion that it is impossible to remain faithful at a distance. However, if you know the secrets of fidelity, you can save love. Today, young people have to leave for various reasons. Some often go on business trips, while others work abroad to provide for their families. How to keep love and fidelity?

Psychologists give some tips on how to keep a man at a distance:

• Communicate as often as possible. Today you can talk at a distance with the second half. Tell your loved one about the painful thing, how the next day went, be interested in his life and constantly say that you are waiting for him very much.
• Don't impose. Do not call your loved one many times a day, because he may be busy. Call daily in the evenings when the working day is over.
• Trust. No need to think that if your loved one is far away, he will immediately begin to cheat on you. Better think that he doesn't have time for fun. He went to work, so try not to talk about treason. You can encourage him to take this step.
• Wait. During the absence of your beloved, do useful things. If you haven’t had time to meet with friends before, then you should sit in a cafe or just read your favorite book. When you are constantly busy with business, you do not have time to yearn and think about the bad. In the evening, boredom can overcome, but do not escalate the situation. Communicate in moments of longing with a loved one or with a close friend who can distract you from unnecessary thoughts.

Psychologists say that separation brings people together. After parting, both the guy and the girl will yearn for their soulmate. This is only if there really is love in a couple.

If young people adequately survived the separation, then the meeting will be bright and unforgettable. Your love will flare up with a vengeance.

Conspiracies: how to fall in love with a man and keep him

Many girls and women believe in mysticism, divination and miracles. Magicians say that if you talk to a man, there is every chance to keep him. If you really believe in the power of words, then give it a try, chances are you'll succeed.

How to keep a man, conspiracies, they are prayers, they will tell you. Words can be: “Lord, I ask that my young man love me as I love him. If I want a lot, then let him want to be with me, like grass with water. Lord, help me open my beloved's eyes. I want him to see me as beautiful, feminine, loving girl and not just a good friend. Help me keep the one I love for life. I want us to make a good and beautiful couple.”

Remember, prayer should be read from the heart. After all, if you pronounce words without feelings, they will not help you win your loved one. Whenever you say a prayer, say the names (your own and the guy you need). Only then will the Lord know exactly whom to send to you.

Prayers can be anything, not necessarily memorized. After all, if a person speaks the right words from the heart, then God will hear them and help in the problem. Now you know how to keep a man. Conspiracies are not always useful. Most likely, you need to change yourself so that your loved one pays attention to you.

Conclusion

The article discusses options for how to keep a man. It turns out that you can not completely give your life into the hands of a partner. It is necessary to have your own areas of interest that do not come into contact with the other half. When a person dissolves into his partner, serious problems arise over time. Such a satellite bothers the second half, and he has no idea how to live on.

There is an opinion that women are more cunning and wise than men. That is why they are considered the guardians of the hearth. If you do not trust your loved one, at least pretend that everything is fine. When a man understands that a woman sees in him a knight on a white horse, he strives to match this image. From then he is unlikely to be capable of treason. Try to use your wisdom.

A woman must maintain a vital interest, not obsessing over her beloved or children. She must have her own hobby, favorite work. When the weaker sex stays at home in a dressing gown and without a hairstyle, a man will soon get tired of it.

So that you and your loved one are not bored on weekdays, try to diversify them. On the first night, go to the movies, on the second - cook a romantic dinner, on the third - invite friends to visit, and so on. Only variety will help keep your relationship alive.

Be not only a couple, but also good friends. Share problems, help with advice, sincerely rejoice for your partner. Such mutual understanding will keep the relationship for many years, if not for life.

To please a man, to charm him and even to fall in love with yourself is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. It is quite another thing to keep a loved one, to become for him the only one next to whom he wants to spend his whole life.
And the main difficulty on the way to a joint “happily ever after” is the fear of a serious relationship among many modern men. But there are other pitfalls that can easily break your boat in the ocean of Love. How to keep a man and live a long and happy life together with him will be discussed further.
Was there a prince: how to understand whether it is worth keeping a man
First of all, let's decide with you who you need to keep next to you, and who is better to let go immediately, without wasting precious time and effort. To do this, use our three simple rules.
Rule #1: Don't rush!
It is no secret that a woman in love tends to idealize her lover. Under the pressure of male charm and a cocktail of raging hormones, we all lose our heads and point blank do not notice its shortcomings. But he is not an ideal, and very soon, what seemed inconspicuous and even cute will literally become terribly annoying. Therefore, try not to make plans for the future with a man earlier than after six months of your relationship with him. According to research, this is exactly how long it takes for our endocrine system to get used to the hormonal explosion caused by an overabundance of love feelings.
Rule #2: Be honest with yourself
So, after about 6 months, your relationship will already get a little stronger, you will get to know each other quite well, and your hormones will subside - it's time to think about the future. This is the perfect time to ask yourself a simple question: Do I want to be with this man for the rest of my life? If, in response to it, butterflies start to flutter in the stomach, and images of your joint children appear in your head, then proceed to the next paragraph. If you don’t experience anything like this, then reconsider your relationship, it is quite possible that they have long outlived their usefulness. Just be honest with yourself. Your happiness depends on it!
Rule #3: Be sure to reciprocate
The third rule is the most important condition for a happy life together. Therefore, you need to make sure that your and his views on the relationship are completely the same. In other words, you must be sure that you are together solely out of mutual pure love, and not because you have been seeking his attention for a long time and he is just comfortable with you. How to understand that feelings are mutual? Just trust your intuition and analyze your relationship a little. It is advisable to do this being alone with your thoughts. You can additionally resort to a simple exercise: divide a sheet of paper into two columns and write out in them everything that each of you brings to your relationship. Ideally, both columns should be about the same size. A significant advantage goes in one direction - this is an occasion to think about harmonizing relations with your loved one.


If you are sure that this man is the love of your life, then the matter remains small. It is necessary to make the beloved come to the same conclusion. It is advisable to do this carefully and imperceptibly, otherwise men are gentle and shy creatures, and they must certainly be prepared for a “happily ever after”. And you need to prepare in such a way that he is sure until the end of his days that he himself made the fateful decision to make you his wife. And I didn't guess.
Now that the presence of a prince is beyond doubt, it's time to talk about how to keep a man close to you, preferably for life. And for this, you first need to understand why modern men are in no hurry to part with the status of a bachelor, even when there is already a wonderful and, most importantly, beloved woman next to them. As cliche as it sounds, it's all about fear. The fear of a serious relationship is a fairly strong psychological barrier, which can be very difficult for a man to cross alone. It can manifest itself in completely different ways. For example, in a cheerful revelry and a constant change of sexual partners. Or it can “hide” in a civil marriage, lasting without a stamp in the passport for decades. There are also cases when this very fear makes men even break off relations with their love, so as not to move to a new stage in the relationship.
Causes of fear of a serious relationship in men
One of the main causes of such fear is a bad experience. In other words, unhappy love. Therefore, it would be useful to ask the young man if there was something similar in his life and how he survived this spiritual wound. If the breakup occurred relatively recently, then you should not rush to the rapid development of your relationship.


In addition, the fear of a serious relationship in men may arise due to a distorted view of family life. For example, if a man has already had an unsuccessful marriage or his parents/friends/relatives have experienced a painful divorce. In this case, he can literally believe that marriage destroys the relationship and will not strive to create it. Your main task will be the destruction of this illusion. It is very important to show your loved one that the marriage relationship depends on the mutual efforts of two people, and can be very happy.
The idea of ​​a merry bachelor life imposed by advertising and the media completes our triad of the main causes of the fear of a serious relationship in men. It's about about the artificially created and so attractive playboy lifestyle: many girlfriends, no obligations, fun and no responsibility. If this is the reason, then your task is to show your beloved another world. A world of mutual love and harmony, where real happiness can be achieved. How to do it? The simple tips that you will find below will come to the rescue.
Little female tricks: 10 simple tips on how to keep a man
It's time to move on to practical advice that will help you realize the dream of a happy life together with your lover. But keep in mind that they only work if your love feelings with a man are mutual and the relationship is developing. Let's make a reservation right away that their implementation will require good willpower and sometimes self-sacrifice from you. Therefore, be ready to work on yourself for the benefit of your love. And remember that it is impossible to keep a man either by a child, or by blackmail, or by money. Only mutual love and respect can make a couple happy for life!
Tip #1: Be versatile!
What is the difference between a beloved woman and a mistress or wife? The fact that she skillfully combines both of these roles. And he also knows how to be a close friend for a beloved man, a cheerful girlfriend, a caring mother, a sympathetic sister, a fair critic, a faithful ally ... This list can be continued for a long time, but its main meaning is clear and so - you need to be able to be multifaceted with your loved one. Don't focus on just one role, like the girl he's dating. Guys can go on dates with you for years, but none of them will dare to propose to you for one simple reason - you do not demonstrate anything else. Therefore, if you want to keep a man, be ready to cook borsch for him, and listen to problems, and take care of him in illness. And all this despite the fact that you are "just dating."
Tip #2: Don't force things
One of the most common female mistakes is rushing into relationships. On the one hand, it is understandable: age is running out, girlfriends are all already married, parents buzzed about their grandchildren ... Yes, and you have been dating for a long time - it’s definitely time to get married. But having come to this idea, in no case should you put pressure on a man, let alone blackmail him. In principle, this advice works at every new stage of a relationship, and not just when it comes to a wedding. So never rush! Give your man time to mature for cohabitation/marriage/children. In the meantime, no one forbids you to gently and gently guide him in the right direction with your caress and care.


Tip #3: Stay Interesting and Mysterious
For a man, there is nothing more boring than a monotonous life with a woman about whom he knows everything. Therefore, cultivate mystery and mystery in yourself. First of all, we are talking about a variety of hobbies and hobbies that will help you always remain interesting for your loved one. Ideal if some of your hobbies will completely coincide or overlap with the interests of your beloved.
Also try to surprise your man from time to time. Surprises can be very different: from a new hairstyle and an unexpected hair color to buying a certificate for a joint parachute jump. A little hint: in order for the surprise to be a success, be sure to make sure that your loved one will be happy for him. You can do this gently through indirect questions to him or his close friends.
Tip #4: Stay fit
Start with an elementary - everyday appearance. Once and for all, say a firm "no" to peeling nail polish, disheveled hair and soiled bathrobe in his presence. By the way, there is nothing wrong with appearing in front of your beloved without makeup. But doing the same make-up / manicure / coloring / hair removal with him is categorically not worth it. Firstly, these are far from the most attractive procedures. And secondly, such activities very often seriously scare men away. Therefore, it is better to let your little beauty secrets remain with you, and your beloved will only see the finished result.


Also, take care of your body. Ideally, try to maintain those forms with which you once conquered him. But remember that a couple of extra kilos are not so terrible as rough skin and cracked heels. So be sure to take care of yourself! Remember that well-groomed woman already a beauty.
Tip #5: Sharing Traditions
Nothing brings a couple together like small family traditions and rituals. For starters, let it be a simple Sunday tea party in a cozy cafe or a Saturday evening watching your favorite TV shows. The main thing is that it becomes really traditional, and therefore a regular pastime for both of you. Gradually add new joint rituals to your relationship that bring pleasure equally to each of you. And very soon they will become traditions that will bind you even more.
Tip #6: Have a Positive Attitude
Here, men do not like problematic ladies who strive to cry on their shoulders or complain about a bitter fate every time they meet. They don't like everything. Accept this fact and stay most of the time with your loved one on a positive wave. Firstly, you can cry with your mother and girlfriends, but it’s better to spend time with your loved one in some more interesting way. And, secondly, by demonstrating an optimistic attitude in a difficult situation, you thereby show a man that he can always count on your common sense and support in difficult times. And, thirdly, by ceasing to complain about all sorts of minor troubles in the company of your beloved, you automatically become stronger in spirit.


Tip #7: Don't dissolve!
Another factor that repels men is the complete dissolution of women. It can be dissolution in a spouse, children, life or work. The worst thing is that when a woman dissolves, she loses her boundaries and ceases to be an interesting person. Therefore, no matter how much you like a guy, no matter how much you want to make your loved one the meaning of your life, always remain a holistic person. Remember, no man will appreciate such sacrifices. And even worse, at one fine moment it will simply consider you as the attendants, with whom it is so convenient, but so boring. Well, the fact that men run from boring women like fire, you already know from our advice at number three.
Tip #8: Home comfort
Like it or not, but only caring female hands are able to create that unique home comfort that men appreciate so much. Therefore, make every effort to ensure that your joint housing becomes a real home for your beloved. Watch the cleanliness in the apartment, the neatness of his clothes and be sure to learn how to cook his favorite dishes. For most men this will be more than enough. And do not think that we urge you to plunge headlong into economic affairs and forget about your beloved. Learn to properly manage your time and then you will be able to do a lot! Including taking care of yourself and meeting with girlfriends.


Tip #9: Criticize Gently
Criticism of a lover is a dangerous thing. Especially if you criticize sharply enough and constantly. Believe me, not a single man will tolerate a woman next to him who regularly “nags” him. Therefore, if you criticize your beloved, then try to do it as carefully and constructively as possible. For example, do not just point out his mistakes, but offer a solution that will help avoid similar negative experiences in the future. Remember that a man will be much more attentive to a calm and reasonable conversation than to an emotional tantrum. In addition, having mastered the ability to criticize correctly, you can take the important place of a trusted adviser in the life of a loved one.
Tip #10: Give the man freedom
This is one of the most important tips on how to keep a man close to you. What do we mean by "to give freedom"? First of all, the ability of a man to independently make important decisions and the lack of total control on the part of a woman. Learn to trust your lover and don't keep him on a "short leash". He should have the opportunity, for example, to watch football with friends without you and your endless calls. It is also important not to impose your views on life to your beloved and make plans for the future for him. Always remember that your beloved is an adult and accomplished man who is able to make important decisions on his own. And your task is to become for him a faithful and loving person, to whose opinion he will be ready to listen, and not a second mother. Therefore, more often be guided by this principle in relationships. And very soon you will personally be convinced of its effectiveness!

Do you feel like he looks into your eyes differently than before? Are feelings fading? Attitude cool? How to keep a loved one? Don't wait for him to say the decisive words about the breakup!
There can be many reasons for the temporary “chill”. Perhaps he is too busy thinking about work, he has some problems with relatives. Perhaps another began to hunt for him ... Are you afraid to hear fatal words from him? Take action today!

Until recently, he tenderly whispered declarations of love, and you basked in the rays of adoration ... And now he is not looking for meetings so often, and more often he chooses the second between you and football ... It's time to think about how to return the cooled feelings! We will show you reliable ways!

• Do not ask why the beloved has cooled towards you. Unless, of course, you want to aggravate the situation and hasten the breakup. He might seriously consider this question! You may not like his answer...
• Talk cheerfully, joyfully! Charge your loved one with your positive! He will call you just to recharge his batteries! Be for him the embodiment of happiness! All people dream of happiness! Constant whining is one of the main ones that repel men.
• Do not interrogate why he did not pick up the phone, did not want to go to the cinema with you. Give your loved one the appearance of freedom! Use this evening to take a walk with your girlfriend in the park.
• Improve! Get more interesting! Find a new hobby! Stay up to date with all the events in modern life! You can support any conversation! Surprise him and everyone around you with your intellect and eccentricity!
• Not a scandal. Don't say it's over! Don't kick him out the door unless you really want to! Others can pick him up... Is he dear to you?
• Don't dwell on the problem. Don't think about a guy 25 hours a day! You have a lot of unfinished business! It's time to take care of them!

How to return cooled feelings: 7 reliable ways!

- Cold and hot shower. This method is known to all temptresses, its action is confirmed by psychologists. "Contrast shower" involves the alternation of warm and cold attitude towards a person. Now you gently whisper pleasant words to him, show great interest, catch his eye. At the next conversation, she is cold with him, you have urgent business, you excuse yourself with official phrases. You answer his confessions dryly. This does not mean that you should avoid him, clearly show dislike. Not at all, just be as discreet as possible.

The guy doesn't understand what's going on. Why have you suddenly changed your attitude towards him. Looking for an answer in himself, sorting through all the spoken phrases. And in an hour you will again endow him with warmth and attention.
-Lack of love and attention . It is the shortage that makes people grab from the shelves of the store even what they do not need at that moment. Meetings should be intense, but short, no more than an hour. Phone conversations are interesting and short. Talk to him very kindly. After a few minutes, quickly and politely interrupt the conversation, referring to urgent matters. Don't wait until a meeting or a phone conversation bores him. Don't give too much heat. Let him feel the lack of your attention, get your love in small sweet portions.
- Drop anchors. Does your relationship already have a little history? Do you have anchor phrases that only you and him understand? Are there certain gestures that you often use? Remember happy moments, joyful and significant events! Remind the guy about it. Better not directly, but indirectly. Talk to him in a language that only the two of you can understand! Remember the minutes, the first timid kiss, a funny incident from a joint trip. After such memories, a new wave of feelings will immediately cover him!
- Forget about the phone. Do not call your loved one ten times a day. Say you'll call after work and forget about it. Accidentally throw the phone in your purse, miss his call. Do not look at the phone every hour waiting for a call.
- Jealousy Prick. Jealous of him? No, you don't have to! Show that you have a new fan? Risky. Better do something else. Accidentally say several times about the seller of the store: “He offered ... He advised ...” Put a new keychain on the keys and comment casually: “I was given ...” Read all SMS immediately, even if they are from a mobile operator. Dress smarter for work. But do not forget that jealousy is useful only in small doses.
- Pout your lips. Get a little offended with him. For a moment! Only the reason should be petty, not of great importance.
- Set up a hunt. This is the most interesting. In relationships, the principle of hunting always operates. One of the lovers is a hunter, the other automatically turns into a game. If you catch up, he starts to run away. And it works on a subconscious level! Run away, then he will chase you! Just give him the opportunity to catch up with you!

Did he put his arm around you? Dodge playfully. He said gentle words - do not rush to repeat them. Be shy and seductive! Do not pounce on him with caresses. Break the kiss first!

All methods are very effective! They can be used individually or in combination. Soon you will light an even greater flame of passion and love in him! And then the time will come to check. All testing instructions are on our website!

These methods will be effective if boredom has crept into the relationship ... If a man nevertheless decided to leave, then no tricks and words will stop him! Tell the guy thank you for the good moments in the relationship and let him go! Without regret! After all, he makes room in your destiny for true, faithful, devoted love! You may not believe it now, but it's true! Perhaps, over time, he will want to return, but you are unlikely to need him already!

Now you know the ways that will help you drive more than one guy crazy!